by Jeff | Jul 17, 2016
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Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw
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Who knew that pocket monsters could be so entertaining? In a matter of a week, news headlines went from protests of the deaths of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile, followed by the senseless murders of 5 Dallas law enforcement officials to… Pokémon?
Yup. It’s true.
One of the hallmarks, in my humble opinion, of my beloved Millennial Generation is its ability to display empathy for 30 seconds and completely forget something ever happened. This week, Jeff and Dave welcome back Mike Jewel of Relational Integrity to discuss how this Millennial generation could become the least greatest generation in modern history.
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The term “The Greatest Generation” is the title of Tom Brokaw’s 1998 book profiling members of this generation, stemming from his attendance at the D-day 40th anniversary celebrations. In the book, Brokaw wrote, “it is, I believe, the greatest generation any society has ever produced.” He argued that these men and women fought not for fame and recognition, but because it was the “right thing to do.” (Source)
Pokemon Go Fast Facts
15 million app downloads
So, if this simple little game is getting people out of their parents’ basement, what could be so bad? Well, aside from the early privacy issues, there is a little known story out there involving a former shaman in the Yanomamo tribe in Venezuela known as Chief Shoefoot. Dave shares this story of Chief Shoefoot’s thoughts on the Pokemon characters.
Here’s a response to the comments about Pokemon from Mike Dawson, missionary to the Yanomamo in Venezuela:
“It has been extremely interesting to read all the comments and especially to note the defensiveness of some of the comments (regarding the Pokemon/Bautista true story). Reminds me of the last verse in the book of Judges where it says “In those days there was no king in Israel and every man did that which was right in his own eyes.” It seems the major theme I am reading is, “It might be wrong for you, but for me, I don’t see any thing wrong with it, so it is fine for me”. That is an interesting view.
The interesting thing about this particular story was that, when I was sent the pokemon book by the church asking me to see what Bautista thought about it, it had such a low priority with me that I set it back and promptly forgot it. My wife reminded me of it weeks later and I only showed it to Bautista out of a sense of obligation to the church people back home. I did not believe there was anything to it for a minute. As far as i was concerned, it was a waste of time. That all changed when i opened a page at random and showed the picture to him, (By the way, I gave him no background at all, I did not tell him about the church questioning it or anything about it it.) I only opened the page and asked him. “What do you think of this?” His response, frankly shocked me. “Oh, I know that one, it is…” and he named it. He then went on to name the attributes of this character and he was right on every count, he listed them, just as they were listed in the book. He did that repeatedly.
I had no idea this was going to be so wide read and basically just wrote it up as Bautista was talking. One thing I did not make real clear, was, that to Bautista these characters did not just remind him of demons, he recognized that they were drawings of real beings that he had seen and known. He knew each of them by name, at least the ones he recognized. He not only knew them by name, but accurately told what their attributes were, and every attribute that he attributed to that particular character, the page on that character also had that same attribute listed. There were some in the book that he did not recognize and he admitted that it would be impossible for one shaman to have met them all. There was absolutely no doubt in my Keila’s mind, nor in my mind, nor in our son Stephen’s mind, after he reluctantly started listening, that Bautista knew what he was talking about. Again, let me make it clear, I do not claim to be an expert, but I believe Bautista was.
Not sure what else to say on this. Sad to say, Bautista passed away last week. Please believe me, I have no personal ax to grind here. I only wrote down accurately what I saw and heard personally and only did this because a church sent a book asking me to do so. You can chose (sic) to believe it or not, your choice. Once I heard Bautista describe these beings as being very dangerous to young children, I chose not to allow them in any form in my own house. satan always seeks an open door to destroy, especially our children.”
Further reference
Is Pokemon Safe for Christian Kids? | Erika Dawson
Pokemon Go police blotter: Game is being blamed for a lot of bad things | Philly.com
Pokémon Go: teenagers caught playing game while driving near pedestrians | The Guardian
Pokémon Go in a Fractured and Flattened world | The Gospel Coalition
Listen to Chief Shoefoot’s story
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by Jeff | Jun 26, 2016
Who’s on this episode?
Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw
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This week, Jeff and Dave invite Amanda to share her story with us about how she found hope. As she searched for relationships and fun in college, she found profound emptiness. Partying. Lust. It all left her confused.
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Show Notes
Hope is an anchor for our soul. See Hebrews 6.
by Jeff | Jun 19, 2016
Who’s on this episode?
Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Terra Kay @terrakfree
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On this Father’s Day, we are thinking of the fathers in Orlando grieving the loss of their son or daughter. The headlines rip at the heart of every father of the senseless shootings of Christina Grimmie and the patrons at Pulse, and the toddler killed by an alligator at Walt Disney World.
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Pulse shooting in Orlando is being called the biggest terror attack on the US since 9/11. How do we process tragedy like this as it impacts an entire nation? Here are 5 ways Christians can respond
The truth is, we don’t really know why the shootings happened, except that we live in a world full of sin around people who have their eyes set on destruction. Some think it had something to do with ISIS or simply out of hatred for LGBT people. Who knows, really? These shootings have no rationale. And how we respond is critically important. Our only remedy is to call this nation back to God.
Israeli Prime Minister Netanyahu gave an appropriate response in light of the attack on Pulse.
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Remembering Elisabeth Elliot and her legacy despite living through tragedy
Books by Elisabeth Elliot
Elisabeth Elliot was one of the most influential Christian women of our time. For a half century, her best selling books, timeless teachings and courageous faith have influenced believers and seekers of Jesus Christ throughout the world. She used her experiences as a daughter, wife, mother, widow, and missionary to bring the message of Christ to countless women and men around the world.
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Ephesians 5 | Titus 3
There are enough things that divide us, that create a barrier of connection and affect interpersonal relationships. If tragedy has any upside, it’s that those barriers can come down and we can mourn with those who mourn. Differences don’t matter. Love does. Love matters. And love will win. Faith, hope and love remain. The greatest of these is love. And the truth is, we will get through. We are going to make it. -Jeff
by Jeff | Jun 12, 2016
Who’s on this episode?
Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Terra Kay @terrakfree
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Contrary to popular belief (ie. culture) the “Friend Zone” is not a good place to be. I tend to disagree. Friendship is essential to a full life. But sometimes friends can be confusing. This week, Jeff and DW sit down with Terra Kay to peel back the layers of relationships in our follow up to last week’s episode on intimacy. We’re looking at Powell’s five levels of communication and relating them to relationships.
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John Powell’s 5 Levels of Communication (we put counted from 1 to 5, instead of 5 to 1 on the episode. We are sorry.)
Level 5: Small Talk. This is surface communication, like “How are you?” as you pass someone on the street. There’s nothing wrong with it. It helps to break the ice, but if communication remains on this level, it can be frustrating. Authentic intimacy requires greater depth, and tough truths require much greater depth.
Level 4: Factual Conversation. This is when the conversation stays at a head level. It lacks feeling. At this level you might describe all the rational reasons why something is true for you, but not explain why you care so much or how it affects you personally. Again, facts are important in conversation. But including emotions takes communication to a new level.
Level 3: Ideas and Opinions. This is where authenticity and intimacy begin. You start to expose yourself at this level, sharing opinions and hopes that go beyond the factual. Its amazing how much ice is broken at this level, when we really hear each others hopes (and fears) and dreams.
Level 2: Feelings and Emotions. This is where tough truth is expressed, as well as exciting vision. This is when you describe why you feel the way you feel. You describe what is going on inside you, including feelings of frustration, anger, resentment, or happiness.
Level 1: Deep Insight. This is the gold of communication where you bring together facts, opinions, feelings and depth. You speak honestly AND kindly, clear about who you are but not needing others to agree. When you connect at this level with another person, or a group of people, you have really struck the gold of authentic intimacy.
‘Scary Close-Reflections For Finding True Intimacy’ Bible Reading Plan
Donald Miller released a Bible reading plan to go along with his book, Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy.
by Jeff | Jun 5, 2016
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Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Todd @toddmcilhany
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Every person is searching for intimacy. But what is intimacy? Here’s an idea, the next person you see, ask them to define that word. You can reasonably expect the ones who are willing to attempt to answer will say something about sex, generally between a man and a woman. And really, they couldn’t be more wrong. This week, Jeff and Dave welcome back Todd to the show to break down what it means to have intimate relationships.
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Welcome back, Todd!
Todd is an NBI Graduate serving as the Media Specialist at Silver Birch Ranch. He was on the show with us back when we first started. He and his wife, Sarah, will be expecting their first child in July.
This TED Talk is amazing. Robert Waldinger talks about one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies on lifetime happiness. From their website:
What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it’s fame and money, you’re not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you’re mistaken. As the director of a 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life.
What’s the big idea?
- Intimacy is about developing and growing deep bonds with another person. It is about closeness and familiarity. Members of the same gender can (and should) have intimate relationships. The greater the number of deep bonds we have with people, the more we understand love. However, in a culture where “everything is sexual,” we are not connecting with those around us in a way that is healthy. When we only equate intimacy with sex, we know not the true purpose and meaning of both intimacy and sex.
- Deep affection or bonds with a person of the same gender does not change your sexual orientation. At HopeNet 360, we are inclusive of people from all backgrounds, regardless of who they are or how they self-identify. There are no checkboxes to mark if you are gay, straight, transgendered, etc. All of humanity needs hope. All of humanity is despairing because of their inability to perfect themselves, even with the help of other people. Every person is made to bond with God and bond with people. Sexual orientation, as big of a deal as people make it to be today, is actually a really small part of who we are as humans.
[Tweet “”When you don’t acknowledge people’s differences and strengths, it holds everybody back.” -Todd #HNRTB”]
“I’m not gay, but…”
Jean Paul-Bedard writes:
I was taking inventory of the meaningful friendships in my life, and it became clear to me that although I have many male friends, all of these relationships are collegial, superficial, or competitive. […] Herein lies the problem, and I believe it raises two questions. First, why as a society do we equate intimacy and vulnerability with sex? Two, why have we associated strong ties between men as either indicative of homosexuality or propagation of institutionalized patriarchy?
Aristotle referred to Platonic friendships between men as the societal “ideal”. In the 19th century, male friendships were more sentimental and were marked with endearing language that by today’s standards, would be construed as “queer.”
Somewhere along the way, it became more difficult for men to turn to other men for the intimacy we all long for in a meaningful relationship. […] Men now view one another as competitors rather than colleagues.
Links & Articles
What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | TED Talk
I’m Not Gay But I’d Like To Have An Intimate Relationship With A Man | Jean-Paul Bedard (Huffington Post Canada)
Intimacy With God | OpenBible.info
Hope for Those Who Don’t Want to Parade with Pride
Trey Pearson, a Popular Christian Rocker, Tells Fans He’s Gay | NY Times
It’s time for Summer Camp at Silver Birch Ranch!
by Jeff | May 29, 2016
Who’s on this episode?
Jeff Strommen @jstrommen | Dave Wager @wagerdaw | Pastor Kirk Gerbers @kirkgerbers | Sarah Gerbers @sarahbeth_gerbers
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Take a look around. Someone somewhere is taking a selfie right now. They might be wearing a Chewbacca mask, too. Chances are, they’re taking 100 photos just for one measly Instagram. That’s what life has become – one measly, filtered, selfie-centered photo. Is there anyone who will risk it all to live an unfiltered life? This week, Jeff and Dave sit down with Kirk and Sarah Gerbers, youth pastors from Destiny Church in De Pere, Wisconsin.
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Kirk & Sarah Gerbers
Kirk is a youth pastor of over 10 years. Born and raised in Green Bay, Kirk spent some years in Flint, Michigan and has been youth pastoring in De Pere, Wisconsin since 2013. He is on Twitter, but as you will find out in this week’s episode, he would rather be face-to-face than thumb-to-thumb.
Sarah is a professional photographer and owns Selah Photography. Born in Milwaukee, she met Kirk in college and the rest is history. In her time on social media, Sarah has found the good and the bad. She was in it for the wrong reasons and then started over.
Conversation Starters
Do you think the average person who is on a social media site spends too much, too little, or just the right amount of time using it?
What is the point of social media? Why is so much time and energy invested in snapping, gramming, liking, commenting, sharing? Is it all healthy?
What would you do with your time without social media?
How has our society changed since social media really took off in the mid-2000’s?
Could it be that my attitude or outlook on life has been based on how people think of me on social media?
Things to consider
Candace Payne, better known as the Chewbacca Mom, went unfiltered on Facebook and has inspired over 150 million people!
As humans we love to hide.
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